In the world of pet ownership, the language we use to describe our relationship with our furry companions is evolving. Gone are the days of simply being a pet owner; now, terms like caregiver, guardian, and friend are being used to better reflect the complex bond between humans and animals.
The shift away from the term „owner“ began before I adopted my dog, Peter, seven years ago. Organizations like the Humane Society of the United States have embraced terms like caregiver and guardian, recognizing that animals are more than just property under the law. While the legal implications of ownership are important, many people feel that these terms do not fully capture the depth of the human-animal relationship.
Some individuals prefer to refer to themselves as their dog’s person, with the collective noun being dog people. Author Jessica Pierce has used the term guardian for years but finds it somewhat forced and legal-sounding. Terms like fur baby and pet parent, while well-intentioned, can be patronizing and overlook the fact that animals have their own thoughts and feelings.
One term that has gained popularity is „friend.“ Pierce herself has started using this term more frequently, especially when referring to her own dog, Bella. While friend may not encompass the full range of the human-dog relationship, it feels less one-sided than other options. Pierce believes that using the term friend acknowledges the mutual respect and understanding between humans and animals.
Applied-animal-behavior analyst Susan G. Friedman advocates for using the term caregiver, emphasizing the importance of language in shaping our behavior towards animals. Verbal changes like replacing pet with companion and command with cue can influence how we interact with our pets. By viewing animals as companions rather than possessions, we can foster a more respectful and empathetic relationship.
For a long time, I used the term owner to describe my relationship with Peter, but it never felt quite right. Since shifting to terms like friend, person, guardian, and caregiver, I’ve noticed a change in how I perceive and interact with him. I no longer see him as a possession but as a sentient being with his own thoughts and emotions. Our bond has deepened, and I strive to be the best friend, person, guardian, and caregiver I can be to Peter.
In the end, the language we use to describe our relationship with our pets may never be perfect. Crossing species boundaries and communicating with animals will always present challenges. However, by choosing words that reflect respect, empathy, and understanding, we can cultivate a more meaningful connection with our furry friends. So, whether you see yourself as a caregiver, guardian, friend, or something else entirely, what matters most is the love and care you provide to your beloved pet.
